Sunday, June 24, 2012

Going with the flow

Brudair © Corina Duyn '12
So much has happened...
First of all, a few months ago I turned 50, and it seems to be an onslaught on my health. Kind of funny, not haha funny, but don't 'they' say, "going over the hill"? Well it feels as if I climbed the hill and tumbled down with great speed into the ravine at the bottom.
Well, I am slowly crawling out of it.

One of my dreams was to make the long desired trip to Canada. I really thought I could do it, but as my energy is so incredibly precious at the moment, I had to acknowledge that I can't do it this year. I think the "I can, I can't" thoughts were taking energy as well.
On the same day that I really was ok with the not going, the "universe" or actually the arts officer, showed me again where my energy should go. And I know this, but I, just like anyone else, have dreams.... But I know that my energy should go into my creativity. "The only constant" as a friend pointed out.
The arts officer, offered me to submit my work for a group show before Christmas, and more excitedly, to have my own show, with an artist of my choosing.
solo fish © Corina Duyn
I glowed, for the rest of the week!
Still am! My work will be sharing the gallery space with Pascale de Coninck's weaving. I am so excited.

That week I also had to complete a commission, a Fairy Doll like Cirrus  The main character in the Cirrus Chronicles. I searched for months for a wooden animal puppet. I searched in vain.
Lying on the couch, after the exhibition news, I thought about the person where the commission was ordered for. One of the main thoughts were the need for a new sense of direction; living by the sea; interest in sewing. Slowly a fish sculpture came into my head. Over the next while the idea became a reality. A fabric fish. I would make a fabric fish!

Brudair © Corina Duyn '12
Over the coming days I played with fabric, rope, string, stuffing and came up with a way to place the fish on a stand.
I had so much fun!
And... this sculpture showed me Trust. Brudair (Irish name meaning Dream) sits so comfortably on the fish, he is not even holding on to the fin. He seems to Trust that wherever he is being led, it is fine.
The piece of driftwood, has a curve and it shows me Movement.
I was shown to go with the flow.

I was glad to be able to spend a few days in the company of Brudair and his Fish, before it was picked up to be given to its new owner.

Of course Robert needed to be in the picture!
Both seem at ease! Although not in agreement
which way to go!

Before I forget!!!
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Monday, June 4, 2012


Yesterday was my mother's birthday. She would have turned 91. Today is my dad's. His age would have been 94.
My dad on the left, I think this picture was taking during the war
I love this picture!
The folowing is a story I wrote about my mother after her passing in 2007. 
I like to share it with you today in their memory.
Maybe one day I will get to write the story of my dad, but have to dig deep as I was only 14 when he passed away. A long time ago.

Edvard Munch meets Louis Armstrong  
By Corina Duyn

“My little girl. My little girl,” repeats my eighty-five year old mother again and again. She strokes my face with her cold thin fingers. “My little girl…”
As she soaks up my image with big eyes deeply sunken in her ashen face, I wonder what is she taking in. My brown eyes? Contentment? That I am still using a wheelchair? Thoughts about our past? Or what my future will bring?
   “…And you were allowed to come straight away?”
I look at my brother seated on the other side of her Dutch hospital bed.
    “Ma expressed a wish earlier today, that I should call everybody,” he explains.
    “Yes Ma, when we told the nurses that I just arrived from Ireland, they allowed me to come and see you straight away. I am so glad to be here!”
 She squirms away in pain when I touch her arm. The unruly nightdress exposes a deep diamond-shaped hollow above her chest bone. A failed drip has left a large bruise, already purple in color, on her poppy-flower skin. The gurgling sound of her chest is in tandem with the bleating sounds emanating from a fellow patient.
“My little girl was allowed to come straight away. I need to pee,” my mother bursts out when she sees a nurse. While we wait in the hall, my brother tells me how our mothers changed vocabulary reminds him of her father.
“Since her stroke she sometimes tells people to ‘bugger off’. I am proud of her,” my brother says with a smile. We reminisce about our granddad’s deviancy, recalling stories of how he once put his walking stick in between the spokes of a young man’s bicycle. The young man had cycled through a pedestrian area.
“Ma?” I hold my mother’s hand. Nails as brittle as her mind.  “We think you behave a bit like granddad these days.” Deep crevices appear between her eyes, followed by a great smile, which momentarily lights up her face.
“Happy memories?” the nurse asks. A very definite ‘Yes’ follows. It is hard to believe that the strong squeeze of my hand comes from this featherweight body.
As the nurses settle her for the night, we are on the brink of a New Year, a new era.

I sit down on my mother’s cream couch. An orange-checkered blanket and blue patchwork cushions are waiting for midday snoozes. I imagine her perching here, wearing grey trousers and green shirt. Staring out the window, eyes wide open, right leg athletically folded over the left, knee high up in the air, heel flat on the couch, left hand tightly covering her open mouth.
The brown plastic window box, once home to a pair of brooding collar doves, is bare and lifeless. The straggly branches of a chestnut tree in its winter outfit partially blocks the view of a block of flats across the road. I can see my mother raising her finger at the black and white photograph of her husband, who passed away thirty years ago. She’d scream: ‘You! Why did you leave me here alone!’
The sky lights up with customary New Year’s Eve fireworks.

A daily routine sets in, with twice-daily visits to the hospital. My mother’s two remaining brothers, in-laws, nieces and nephews, grandchildren and friends, old and young, also come to visit. She wants us to leave almost as soon as we have our coats off.
The day she has five of her six children around her, we are granted a little more of her time.
“Go away to drink coffee!” she tells us after twenty minutes. She turns on her side, seemingly examining the tree outside the window. Hands busy folding a napkin into a perfect triangle.

These hands, blue veins in a pattern not unlike her embroidery, were never idle. As a young girl, she learned how to sew. Taking pride in finding a bargain, she still made some of her own clothes at the age of eighty. Fabric carefully selected from the weekly local market.
Every available storage space in her flat is spilling over with art and craft materials: tools for card making; pencils, paints and brushes; colouring books with Celtic designs; ribbon, beads and yarn; patterns for endearing rabbits and funny teddy bears. It is not all hidden away. Her home is a gallery of her creative, family, and traveling life. Every inch of wall tells a story, even the bathroom wall, with its jigsaw-collage created by her offspring.
A photograph of my mother’s first encounter with her great-grandchild in his incubator, hangs beside a rather official portrait of a granddaughter and boyfriend. A calendar, crammed with birthdays and wedding dates of family and friends, includes the dates when five of her six children emigrated. The family snapshot, taken during her 85th birthday celebration, hangs above the table. Looking at us, she’d doodle on her yellow vinyl placemat.  I wonder if we will ever meet as a family again. She might have had the same thought.
Above the television, a few etchings of her town hang beside a powerful portrait of an old sailor, drawn by my father. On the dark oak chest of drawers rests an ancient copper letter-opener. It holds a prominent place among recent correspondence from around the world. Her patchwork of flowers and leaves, share the wall space with a print of Edvard Munch’s painting The Scream. Angry with us for leaving Holland, she’d look at this powerful image and throw pillows around her bedroom.

Student nurse Jessie gives her patient a spoonful of custard. My mother opens her mouth and swallows the yellow substance with ease. At the sight of another spoonful, a look of utter repulsion comes over my mothers face. It kind of makes us laugh.
“Nha nha…” Ma waves her hand frantically, and pushes away the nurse’s hand. There is a look of understanding between the two of them. My mother seems to say: ‘You understand that I want to die.’ The nurse doesn’t persevere. This young nurse becomes the link of communication between my mother and us.

My mother’s home becomes the family headquarters. We eat Chinese take-away, a family tradition for family gatherings, and toast a life well lived. We hear our mother say: ‘Sure I want another drink, you can’t walk on one leg!’ The story that makes the headlines for the grandchildren is about when their seventy-eight year old grandmother was challenged by her three girlfriends of similar age to go into the sex shop and ask for a dildo. To the delight of her companions, she went in and asked all there was to know from a rather surprised shop owner.

My mother looks old, worn out, and yet strong in her fragile body.
She puts her fingers in her mouth and takes out some phlegm. She smears it on the white starchy sheet. I clean her hand. Our roles have been reversed. As the slippery deposit contains blood, a sample needs to be sent to the laboratories.
“Mrs. D., could you please cough up some phlegm?” nurse Jessie asks. A look of puzzlement appears on my mother’s face. In the hope that a drink would increase the chances of a sample, Jessie holds a straw up to my mother’s mouth. She closes her eyes and opens her mouth wide, like a nestling.

Bit by bit, I page through the varied ways my mother documented her life. There are a large number of photo albums, some already divided up for us, in the event of her departure. Scrapbooks with concert programs; and a ‘funny stories-scrapbook’ with newspaper clippings, with headlines like: African eats his father, mother, and three children; and Out of protest a family do their laundry in a church. In her diaries I read about my own life and the lives of my siblings. Details long forgotten.
This treasure-trove of memories, written and illustrated by my mother, gives me a unique insight into her life as a child growing up in poverty, as well as stories about her parents and life during the war years. Being in my mother’s house, among her personal and intimate belongings, brings me closer to her than we ever actually were. I finally acknowledge the inevitable link with my own creativity and desire to write and illustrate, and become fully aware that our best communication was through our creativity. 

As the voices of her visitors fly above her silent body, Ma suddenly bursts out: “Godsamme truttebollen!” We all laugh.
“I say that as well,” says my sister. “I learned it from Ma,” who in turn manages to let us know that she had learned it from her mother. I wonder what thought ran through her frazzled mind before this very gentle swearing saw the light of day? Was she trying to tell us something but could not find the words? Is she annoyed with us for being here? Was she suddenly aware of herself, so ill and small in a hospital bed?
I think all my mother wants is peace. Peace she is not experiencing when her busy visitors are around. 

 “Come here, I want to tell you something.” My mother beckons nurse Jessie to come close, as if she had a secret to share.
“It is time to go. I know what I want…”
“Oh?” Jessie looks a little overwhelmed by this conversation.
 “A white coffin, with blue flowers.”

Back in my mother’s house, we page through her many travelogues. We find a list of all the journeys she made to her offspring in Canada, Ireland, America and Chile. The count comes to thirty-five. She has been ready to go on her last journey for much longer than we were aware. In 1979 she had written a list of music she would like to have played at her funeral: Inis und Osiris, performed by the choir our dad was a member of. Adagio Sostenuto by Vladimir Horowitz and to finish, a song by Louis Armstrong.
Her wish to die does not come easily. Her body, in all its weightlessness, is strong. Unable to understand what she is trying to tell me, I stroke her ever-busy hands. I am grateful that I finally have the opportunity to be with my mother alone, without the company of a busy sibling. Before departing, Ma pulls my head close, and I am granted a long intense kiss on the cheek.

Ma leaves for her last flight while a violent storm rages over the country.

We all draw blue and green flowers on her white coffin.

At the crematorium, my only brother still living in Holland places a small glass of Ma’s favourite brandy on her coffin. My two eldest siblings dance to Louis Armstrong’s Hello Dolly, beside her.

© Corina Duyn 2008

ps... As always it is lovely to know that you stopped by to read my musing and follow my creative adventures. It would make my day if you leave a comment... 
preferably here, on the blog...? (instead of facebook...?)
 Many thanks & Lots of love Corina

Sunday, June 3, 2012

Open Garden

It's raining today. Bucket loads. If it's the same where you are, 
you might like to spend some time in my garden?
Back garden, seen from my garden bench,

Although I have a tiny garden, there are still hidden
areas, like this flowerbed, and Zen corner in the top right
of picture 'hiding' behind the Euphorbia
Where else would you go?
(seated in my Zen Corner)
Welcome visitors

Front garden
It's fourth summer and the flowers are starting to
grow into each others space.
I like that!

Sitting in the front garden, I watched this snail
and wondered will (s)he not get dizzy, hanging upside down?
A fellow snail of different origin was hanging upside down
under another plant!

Another snail, exploring Jane Jermyn's sculpture
I must say this is one of my favorite images

No idea of the name, but my goodness is she pretty

small ferns on my stone wall.